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Creating Confidence- the secrets to great self esteem

Causes of poor self- image

• Negative society 
• Negative people 
• Not separating your behaviour from yourself

Poor self- image behaviours

• Jealousy 
• Negative talk about self… or arrogance and boasting 
• Can’t give or take compliments 
• Criticism of/ comparison with others 
• Bullying or taking advantage of others
• Not asking for what we want or considering our own needs
• Denying ourselves treats 
• Experiencing guilt/ shame 
• Unable to give or receive affection 
• Constant poor health 

How to build a positive self image

• Dress up
• Identify your special strengths, talents and skills- make a ‘victory’ list 
• Read success stories (role models) 
• Listen to and watch motivational things 
• Talk like a winner- use positive affirmations 
• Act like you’re confident- smile, walk tall… develop confident body language 
• Give & receive compliments 
• Praise & speak well of yourself 
• Do something for someone who can’t do anything for you in return (volunteer) 
• Treat your body well 
• Be around enthusiastic people 
• Remember the failures 
• Get some perspective
• Take a public speaking course & practise your presentation skills 
• Expand your comfort zone, building on areas where you have confidence
• Let people know how you expect to be treated 
• Be grateful 
• Picture how you want to be and visualise success  
• Look out for knowledge expansion opportunities!
• Set SMART goals

How you will feel

• Feel confident from the inside out in all areas 
• Heightened determination and motivation to reach any goals you set
• Freedom from unwanted fears and limiting beliefs
• Learn to accept yourself, so it’s not life and death if others don’t accept you…but they will- the real you, not the fake conformist 
• Your conduct and morals change for the better 
• Tensions disappear, you become more relaxed and in control 
• Feel secure within yourself 
• Don’t “sweat the small stuff” (worry about the little things) 
• Relationships improve